Friday, February 27, 2009

Thailand's Beauty

I'm in the midst of a three week visit with Jeri (and sometimes Boy, when he's free).  Tomorrow we head to Bangkok for the remainder of my time here.  Boy is based in Bangkok while he's playing in a football (soccer) tournament that lasts a few months.  He's experiencing a lot more freedom than when he was just a lowly Air Force soldier. Being an athlete has advantages in every culture, it would seem!
I took these photos when we were at the river that borders Laos and Thailand.  It's about an hour and a half driver from Ubon Ratchathani, where Jeri and Boy live.  We had a marvelous long-boat ride with a cute little wrinkley Thai woman.















Monday, February 16, 2009

Helmets



Many entries ago I promised the story of the helmets. So, here 'tis!

The government (one of the many -- I think this time it's the Lagos State Gov't) has had a law on their books that helmets are required on all okadas (motorcyles). But, as is the case with most laws -- they are on the books but not in life!

Okadas are very popular as taxis because they can weave through the traffic jams so that those who use them can actually get into the office in decent time. (We are not allowed to use them, of course ... and we wouldn't want to!) So, a driver can carry 3 or 4 passengers on their bike -- along with goats (dead or alive), chickens (as the goats), car tires, 4 x 6 sheets of plywood, car wind shields, ... Yes, I actually saw a guy holding two mid-sized car wind shields on his lap as he balanced behind the driver and we even saw a wheel barrow in the grip of the last of two passengers as he balanced on the back of the bike and let the wheel barrow wheel along behind them.

The scenes are often entertaining --- if they are not terrifying. But as one can imagine, the accident rate is rather high. Jide, our driver, estimates that in Lagos, alone, there are a couple hundred deaths PER DAY from okadas. His father would not let Jide's sister date a particular guy because the guy showed up at their village on an okada! Wise father! We've seen far too many remnants of accidents, including dead bodies with details that I cannot describe here without having this blog be rated R for violence and gruesomeness.

Outlawing their use as taxis would be wise --- which Port Harcourt has recently done. But helmets are at least a place to start. So one fine morning about one month ago the government decided to start enforcing the helmet law. And because it was a law the people didn't need any warning. You can imagine the chaos when police started pulling drivers and passengers off their okadas, beating them into compliance, and hauling them -- bike and all -- to jail. Keep in mind that every law is a new source of income for the dirty police so most were willing to take dashes in order to release the folks. But the required dashes were more than an okada driver's daily (or even weekly) income and in the morning their pockets were empty so, basically, only those with wealthy and compassionate passengers could avoid jail.

(So far, this just seems tragic, but I assure you that the entertaining part of the story is there, too!)

Imagine the panic that ensued. Okada drivers have some system of communication that boggles the mind. (Within 3 minutes of an accident in which a car and an okada collide, the car driver -- if he has not abandoned his car and run for his life -- is surrounded by an angry mob of okada drivers and beaten, often until death. Police stand by and let it happen.) Anyway, whatever their communication system, in this case within minutes the okadas were off of the streets. The price of poor quality, used helmets went from about $20 to $80 in minutes. And new designs of helmets emerged within a few hours.

"Helmets" included: the traditional motorbike helmet which was far too costly for most bike drivers; standard hardhats -- available at most construction sites and, even with the instant price increases, much more affordable; inverted cooking pots, some with handles still attached; inverted, hollowed out, and dried gourds; bike helmets; welder hats; ...

For at least a week, the arrests continued. Sometimes the driver had a helmet but the passengers did not and therefore all were arrested. Sometimes the passengers had helmets but the driver did not and therefore all were still arrested. You see the pattern. But the most entertaining situations were those when a policeman was shouting at someone who was pointing to their "helmet" and assuring the policeman that they were complying with the law. After shouting, finger-pointing, curses appealing to some evil spirit, and basic pleas for mercy the offenders were hauled away.

Slowly the gourds, cooking pots, and hardhats have disappeared. But, the silly women who perch their helmets in crown-like fashion on top of their headdresses -- they remain!

Huge supplies of used helmets arrived across the borders within days -- some folks in neighboring countries raked in a lot of cash for the over-priced necessities!

No one has, as of yet, seemed to grasp the NEED for helmets. There has just been a huge outcry against the "oppressive government that is robbing individual freedoms!"

The sense of urgency is subsiding.

The policemen have tired of chasing down the offenders. They weren't making enough money from the dashes, anyway!

Many drivers and passengers carry their helmets on their laps or hang them on the handle bars.

Many, even some men, wear them like crowns.

Within another month, everything will be back to "normal."

Until the next time some official in some government decides to enforce some law.

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Perch



So, I was finally able to load some photos after posting the words, alone, earlier! Yippeeeeeee!!! The close-up of Perch, below, was a shocker. While I was on the balcony, trying to get some shots of him in a different tree, he flew up onto our balcony. With my zoom lens on, it was very tough to back up fast enough but slowly enough so that I could get the shot in focus and not scare him off. So, it's not perfect but he was RIGHT THERE!!!
I've been trying to load some photos of Perch for more than a week. He's been visiting almost daily of late. He truly is quite used to me and my camera so though others who walk by his tree scare him off, he seems to be gracious about my photo sessions. He's got to be the most photographed bird around these parts!

I wish I could put a grouping of his poses on here but for now I'll post this and hope that I can add the photos later this evening ... learning to be patient is a survival skill for us, here! :-)

This whole Perch-thing is a bit odd. I'm not fond of indoor, caged birds at all. (Jim will confirm that!) But somehow every time Perch comes to visit I feel as though God is giving me a hug ... You can see why I welcome Perch's visits!

Tuesday, February 03, 2009

What I Love About Nigeria!

In honor of February, the month of LOVE, I thought I'd turn my attention to the things I LOVE about our life here. (Deep breath as I start to think ...) There's no particular order to this but I'll go for an even dozen!

When it comes to life in Nigeria, I LOVE:
1. Michel's ironing: Okay, he irons more than is necessary, but how can I complain about that!? I've never had anything so perfectly ironed before!! (And Jim's never had ironed underwear before!)

2. Michel's washing: This guy can get any stain out of anything!

3. Sunshine streaming in my office window as I sit at this laptop!

4. Being able to communicate with my family with relative (no pun intended!) ease and no cost! (Well, sometimes we can't get phone or internet connections but at least we're blessed to have the company pay for it when it does work!)

5. Seeing my dear husband so many hours of each day. (We're about the only friends we have left as, slowly, our friends of the past three years get transferred out. So, even though I'm not working just down the hall from him anymore, we still seem to manage to be together a good share of each day thanks to his flexible office hours!)

6. Cooking only when I really, really want to cook!

7. Green leaves on trees all year long! And flowers on many of the trees, too!

8. Our beach hut; a sanctuary in the midst of "it all!"

9. My new, custom-made bistro table and chairs. (Now I can sit out on the balcony to write on my laptop. Wellllllllll, as soon as it's fully dried. It's taking many days! I'll take photo of it soon -- it's got it's own, slightly imperfect charm!)

10. A lovely swimming pool that is classy even if I don't often use it!

11. Our driver, Jide -- an amazing guy who takes initiative, problem solves, networks (he found us the guy to make the furniture and negotiated a good price), is fully committed, is eager to learn, loves to talk politics, loves Jesus but is not sucked into the Nigerian version of the gospel,
... and is the best driver! We put our lives in his hands each day and we're grateful for his careful attention to the "roads" and other drivers/walkers/animals that share the path with him!

12. Perch -- "my" dear bird! I'll post more photos of him soon. He's been back quite a few times in the past two weeks!

God is good -- even in this place that is not very! And so I have much for which to be thankful!

Shots of NYC










Shots of London




Saturday, January 31, 2009

Friday, January 30, 2009

A Lazy/Hazy Day at the Beach






There was a strange shade of beige overlaying our day at the beach due to the Harmattan season, which is late this year. (It's the winds bringing sand from the Sahara -- yes, check out your maps! That's a mighty wind!)

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Photos from Alaska visit




I've been trying to get photos loaded all week. We'll have to do it in bits and pieces!

Monday, January 26, 2009

London and the immigration officer's comment

So, we had an unplanned stay in London. The first night was compliments of American Airlines because the NYC flight left so late that we missed our connections in Heathrow for Lagos. That gave us a full day of sightseeing in London -- brrrrrr cold but grand!

The second night was compliments of Virgin Atlantic because the flight was delayed 12+ hours due to plane problems.

When we went through immigration for the first unplanned overnight, we explained to the officer that we'd just be in London one night due to the missed flight to Lagos. This guy who works with hundreds of flights each day, flights that are heading to all points on the globe, said, "Oh, you missed the 10:20 p.m. flight to Lagos on VA?" I said, "Yes; I'm impressed! How could you have all of the flights memorized!?" To which he replied, "Oh, I just know that flight well because we use it regularly to deport Nigerians!"

Can't get photos to load, even just one; have tried for a couple of hours. Will try again, later!

So much to say ...

and so much time!

I'm enjoying my new-found freedom, having returned to Lagos one week ago and having lived one week without The Job!

My goals for last week were few --- get the office at home looking more like home and less like a temporary office; get my new laptop fully functioning; book a flight to Bangkok to see Jeri. I did not realize that those simple goals would take the fulllllllllll week, including most of Sunday! But, now I have an almost-fully functioning laptop, I'm awaiting the email confirmation on the ticket, and the office is getting cozy -- a new little throw rug, some of my travel photos hung on the walls (thanks to the frames that Joey brought to us from Ikea when he visited in July!!)

Vacation was fab!
We were in Anchorage, Denver, NYC, and London with the bulk of our time being in Anchorage. "Bulk" is the appropriate term, indeed, as Jim and I had personal "excess baggage" from all of the eating we did while at my Mom and Dad's. It must have been this subtle fear that we would soon lose the availability of the much-loved and familiar foods that caused us to eat and eat ...

I'll post some photos as the internet speed allows. And I'll begin to catch up on the Nigeria stories. Helmets ... I must tell you about the helmets! And what the immigration guy told us in London ...

It was such a treat to see friends in AK and in Denver (though we ran out of time to catch up with friends in Denver!!!) Great memories!

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Reasons

There are good reasons that I haven't blogged in so long. Well, maybe not good ones but reasons, for sure.

It's difficult to explain but, basically, my energy has been going into survival-level functions: getting up in the morning, making it through a work day, dealing with the issues to and from the office, dealing with the issues with our steward, ... I realize that there really is no adequate way to describe it. So, let's just say I haven't had any emotional/mental strength to do even basic blogging.

There have been many times when something bizarre/absurd-but-normal-for-life-here has occurred and Jim has said, with great enthusiasm, "you should put that on your blog" and I've agreed ... and then done nothing. So those stories are gone from my brain at the moment but they might be retrievable at a later time. 'hope so!

We've been here almost 3 years now. I've been in my job for 2 1/2 years. And we've decided that the only way for the two of us to be able to survive here any longer is for me to leave the job. It's a job that is, well, impossible to fulfill after all -- helping ex pats and returning Nigerians to be happy here?!!! What was I thinking!!? I can't manage another's happiness. I can't even manage my own! We've had terrific and irreplaceable experiences but "happy" is not a word that would often fit. Joy in the midst ... surely. Hilarity ... often. Sightings of God's grace ... always!

So, I'm emerging out of the fog and beginning to breathe again. Tomorrow is my last day on the job! Any time something totally absurd happens today it's just a clear reminder that I'm making the right choice.

Then, very soon we'll be flying to the U.S. for a month! Wowie zowie!! Yippeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

More Thailand Photos










Often, on the rare occasions when Jeri can drive on the base to see her husband, she cannot get out of the car -- but they can visit through the window!

MORE PHOTOS TOMORROW!

Monday, October 20, 2008

Two Terrific Thai Weeks



It's been awhile since I've blogged, I guess. One reason -- I was in Thailand for two weeks, visiting Jeri. Second reason -- I had too much work to do before I left and after I returned to find time to blog! Third reason -- we couldn't get internet to work all weekend.

Quick report on my visit in Thailand--
Jeri and Boy live in an area of Thailand that lacks a lot of the "westernized" things you can find in Bangkok, Chiang Mai, and Phuket. So ... Jeri and I flew to Chiang Mai, rented a car, and drove with a pile of purchases back to Ubon (a two-day drive!). We had loads of fun in Chiang Mai -- eating at restaurants that are unlike what I can find in Lagos and she can find in Ubon, shopping in various stores, hunting for a sewing machine (and finding one!), visiting her old friends at her former church and at the Children's Home where she used to work, having massages, ... and catching up on our visiting!!! :-)

Oddly enough, shopping has lost it's charm in some ways -- the malls just seemed noisy and crowded. I guess that means that we are wayyyyyyyy out of touch with our former form of entertainment! The "drop" in "shop til you ..." came very quickly!!! But we were able to gather together some amazing finds --- lasagna and other pasta, jams, spices like cardamom and other "necessities"!

Our drive across the country was delightful though Jeri had to do most of the driving -- this right side of the car and left side of the road thing is a bit tough to get used to but when one can't drive anything on any side of the road and hasn't driven anything it months it's a bit easier than expected!

We had a great time back in Ubon -- working on projects in Jeri's place, visiting every favorite spot from my previous visit, trying a new favorite restaurant (garlic chicken that is beyond yummy!), playing with Machiato (their puppy!), ...

The highlight of the whole trip (other than spending quality time with my daughter) was seeing Boy and being able to hang out with Boy and Jeri, together, for awhile! We got to see Boy play football and, man, is he good!!!

So, the countdown begins for the next time I'll be able to visit Jeri and Boy -- hopefully Jim can be a part of the next visit!

EVERYTHING ABOUT THE NETWORK IS SOOOOOOOOO SLOW TODAY THAT I DON'T HAVE ENOUGH HOURS TO GET ANY MORE PHOTOS UPLOADED. I'LL TRY TO ADD MORE TOMORROW.